The Best Kinky Dating Sites

I was lucky to get into kink after the Internet took off. Instead of just going to events cold, hoping to meet someone, I could go online to kinky dating sites and pre-screen people with similar interests.

The web has not just been a great place for niche dating, but also for forming friendships within the kink community. Here I will share what I consider the best kinky dating sites. I’ll list some free BDSM dating sites that may also offer paid premium subscriptions. I will also share some options for meeting friends within the fetish and kink communities.

Free BDSM Dating Sites

Fetlife

While some BDSM sites have come and gone over the years, FetLife continues to reign as one of the most well-known kinky dating sites in the world. It’s actually much more than that: it is the world’s largest and kinkiest social network.

Signing up and using FetLife is free. There’s also the option to upgrade to a paid membership, which lets you view user-uploaded videos. Don’t worry if you don’t upgrade, you won’t be barraged with constant requests to buy.

Contacting users is free, granted they allow direct messaging. Some advice to the men: add profile photos before sending a message. It doesn’t have to be of your face. But also remember, it doesn’t have to be of your penis, either.

Fetlife is a great place to find local Munches—friendly BDSM meetups. The kinky social network is also fantastic for finding play partners, hookups, and potentially long-term partners if that is what you want.

ALT BDSM dating site

BDSM dating site Alt.com offers free and paid plans. I’ve tried both in the past because a paid plan gave me more control over filtering my inbox and sending messages. While Fetlife seems to be made and run for the community, Alt is a kinky dating site with a sleeker feel and has some of the UX perks that come with a more business-oriented site.

If you are looking for free kinky live cams, members of the kinky dating site can live stream if you want to find someone to cum together with. It’s a fun place to meet people locally and also people far away with compatible kinks for sexting.

You can sign up and try the ALT free trial to see if the premium features of the kinky dating site are worth your while.

Meetup

You have probably heard of the popular mainstream group-oriented social networking platform Meetup. You don’t need a paid account to sign up and search “BDSM” near you. Overall, the site is fairly safe-for-work and vanilla, but it can connect you with kinky people and events in your area.

All over the globe, sexually adventurous people are hosting events, both in person and virtual, to bring the BDSM community together. At the time of writing, a search for “BDSM” events near me brings up multiple virtual speed dating events.